Never too old for sex!. Age is only a number! You are as old as you feel! These are just a few of the phrases one hears about age and yes, there is an uproar of
approval to this phenomenon.
Sex over 65 still makes people do a double take. The mere thought of older people having sex, and enjoying it, too, brings on embarrassment and disbelief from their children and relatives. However, there are many active ‘oldies’ who feel enthused and youthful by great sex. Shares 63 year-old housewife Swati Sinha (name changed), “Being sexually fulfilled is a basic human need. Those who say that it dies with age; I would want them to introspect about their relationship.”
A common scene at a kitty party would also give you a good insight. Women above 60 are most comfortable talking about sex and the kind of jokes that do the rounds are likely to put any teenager to shame. Says Sunita, on condition of anonymity, “Just because I am 60 doesn’t mean that my sex life doesn’t exist! I attribute my healthy body and glowing skin to my active sex life. I believe that sex gets better with age. You start to feel comfortable in your body and you know what you like. It’s no more experimental.” On the other hand, there are many who go through a lull and then experience sexual renewal. Says Jyoti Sharma, writer, “I got married at the age of 23. Sex in the last 15 years of my marriage was almost non-existent. And the few times that we did do it, there was never any foreplay. It was simply a matter of getting down to business. But when both my daughters got married, my husband and I rekindled the spark and it was so rejuvenating. Today it’s a different story. I feel like a young and beautiful person. I am enjoying every bit of it!”
Some also stop enjoying it because they are stuck in a bad marriage. “My ex-husband made me believe that I was this unattractive ‘elderly’ person. I never even felt like having sex for years at a stretch. But when I met my present husband two years ago, we had the best sex of my life! He infused so much life in me,” shares 56 years old Madhumita Pandey, mother of three.
Agrees 67 year-old Ram Sharma, a Delhi-based businessman, “My first wife was always uninterested in sex. Not that we split because of lack of sex, but I guess somewhere down the line, it didn’t complete our relationship. I remarried Neerja, 59, and we have a roaring sex life and we both are enjoying life!”
Desires don’t die with age, but at some places it’s the kids who make it awkward. “My parents are not the usual parents. They hold hands in front of everyone. They hug each other often in public and that embarrasses me. Why can’t they act their age?” says a worried Punit Chaudhary, an HR manager. It’s very important for kids to understand that just because their parents are ageing, they cannot stop living. “It’s best to let them be without making them feel conscious. Ask couples who live sans sex (or love),” suggests relationship expert Sahil Kapur.
A recent survey revealed that women over age 50 plus no more plan to take on a quiet life; instead they want to have the most adventurous time. Even movies like Sex and the City and Mamma Mia showed older women to be fun and sexy. Model Noyanika Chatterjee opines, "People today have overcome the barrier of age. With age comes a certain amount of surety and confidence that adds to the overall persona.” A Mumbai-based cosmetologist once had a 70 year old client asking for a facelift. So if one can be so particular about their looks, wouldn’t they like to be active sexually as well?
And it’s not just about the face anymore. Fitness routines are not far behind. Fitness expert Leena Mogre says, “Women who have crossed their 50s often come to me. These women realise their physiological state and want to experiment with different styles of fitness routines such as aerobics, Pilates and power yoga.” Staying fit at a later age always helps in living a life sans illnesses. Hence, leading to a sexually superior life!
Theatre personality Lushin Dubey who's now in her 50s adds, “I feel sexy today but in a different way. For me, my old age charm is my sex appeal. I view myself as someone with spunk, bagsful of energy and plenty of internal joy. My wise and intelligent self knows the person I am today.”
So, here’s cheers to aging gracefully yet loving and living life! ( indiatimes.com )
Sex over 65 still makes people do a double take. The mere thought of older people having sex, and enjoying it, too, brings on embarrassment and disbelief from their children and relatives. However, there are many active ‘oldies’ who feel enthused and youthful by great sex. Shares 63 year-old housewife Swati Sinha (name changed), “Being sexually fulfilled is a basic human need. Those who say that it dies with age; I would want them to introspect about their relationship.”
A common scene at a kitty party would also give you a good insight. Women above 60 are most comfortable talking about sex and the kind of jokes that do the rounds are likely to put any teenager to shame. Says Sunita, on condition of anonymity, “Just because I am 60 doesn’t mean that my sex life doesn’t exist! I attribute my healthy body and glowing skin to my active sex life. I believe that sex gets better with age. You start to feel comfortable in your body and you know what you like. It’s no more experimental.” On the other hand, there are many who go through a lull and then experience sexual renewal. Says Jyoti Sharma, writer, “I got married at the age of 23. Sex in the last 15 years of my marriage was almost non-existent. And the few times that we did do it, there was never any foreplay. It was simply a matter of getting down to business. But when both my daughters got married, my husband and I rekindled the spark and it was so rejuvenating. Today it’s a different story. I feel like a young and beautiful person. I am enjoying every bit of it!”
Some also stop enjoying it because they are stuck in a bad marriage. “My ex-husband made me believe that I was this unattractive ‘elderly’ person. I never even felt like having sex for years at a stretch. But when I met my present husband two years ago, we had the best sex of my life! He infused so much life in me,” shares 56 years old Madhumita Pandey, mother of three.
Agrees 67 year-old Ram Sharma, a Delhi-based businessman, “My first wife was always uninterested in sex. Not that we split because of lack of sex, but I guess somewhere down the line, it didn’t complete our relationship. I remarried Neerja, 59, and we have a roaring sex life and we both are enjoying life!”
Desires don’t die with age, but at some places it’s the kids who make it awkward. “My parents are not the usual parents. They hold hands in front of everyone. They hug each other often in public and that embarrasses me. Why can’t they act their age?” says a worried Punit Chaudhary, an HR manager. It’s very important for kids to understand that just because their parents are ageing, they cannot stop living. “It’s best to let them be without making them feel conscious. Ask couples who live sans sex (or love),” suggests relationship expert Sahil Kapur.
A recent survey revealed that women over age 50 plus no more plan to take on a quiet life; instead they want to have the most adventurous time. Even movies like Sex and the City and Mamma Mia showed older women to be fun and sexy. Model Noyanika Chatterjee opines, "People today have overcome the barrier of age. With age comes a certain amount of surety and confidence that adds to the overall persona.” A Mumbai-based cosmetologist once had a 70 year old client asking for a facelift. So if one can be so particular about their looks, wouldn’t they like to be active sexually as well?
And it’s not just about the face anymore. Fitness routines are not far behind. Fitness expert Leena Mogre says, “Women who have crossed their 50s often come to me. These women realise their physiological state and want to experiment with different styles of fitness routines such as aerobics, Pilates and power yoga.” Staying fit at a later age always helps in living a life sans illnesses. Hence, leading to a sexually superior life!
Theatre personality Lushin Dubey who's now in her 50s adds, “I feel sexy today but in a different way. For me, my old age charm is my sex appeal. I view myself as someone with spunk, bagsful of energy and plenty of internal joy. My wise and intelligent self knows the person I am today.”
So, here’s cheers to aging gracefully yet loving and living life! ( indiatimes.com )
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